We allow ourselves a lot of excuses for why we don’t do certain things. It seems we are all just always “too tired’ or “too busy” to do anything. And as overused as those excuses are, I’m pretty sure, that at some point or another, those explanations actually did hold some truth. Sometimes we really are too tired or too busy. Using those excuses every day is ridiculous, but every once in a while I think it’s okay. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about another excuse that, admittingly, I use way too often.
“It’s just not the right time”
We have this weird idea in our head that there’s a right time to do things – like diets & healthy lifestyles can only start on Mondays or New Years. As if eating a salad or going for a run for the first time in a while on a Wednesday is totally worthless. It sounds silly. But we use it. And it’s not just with goals related to health. It’s everything. We tell ourselves we will do something tomorrow. That we will start next week. Next month. In six months. And then, without us really noticing, time is passing by and we are still waiting.
The other day I was talking with one of my best friends. Somewhere in the conversation we seemed to reach the conclusion that this point of summer is kind of a weird spot to be in. Both rising sophomores in college, this was the longest summer break we had ever had – I felt as if I had been home for months and still, somehow, I had another month to go. It was nice to have so much free time but at a certain point, the summer just seemed very, very long. Somewhere between long summer days and blazing heat, I had begun to feel a bit stuck. And truthfully, it felt comforting knowing that someone else was feeling the same.
Later, as I thought more about this so-called “weird” point in the summer, I realized I have been using it as an excuse – an excuse not to the keep working on the things I had told myself would get done this summer. And while having moments of feeling stuck is totally normal and okay, as I thought about this more and more, I got the feeling that maybe I wasn’t so much stuck as I was waiting. At the start of this summer I wanted to work on this blog more, I wanted to live a little healthier, there were a few books I wanted to read – to name just a few summer plans. All of these are still aspirations of mine and all of them are also goals I know I could be doing better on. But what I had started telling myself in the last week or so was that it was just a weird point in the summer, that there were only a few weeks left, and that I really should just wait until school starts to get back on track.
Now obviously my excuse is complete BS. There are still a solid 5 weeks before I head back to school – plenty of time to continue working at my goals. I had, yet again, fallen victim to the idea that there is a “right time” to start something – that goals start on Mondays, in the New Year, or at the start of a season or semester. So as much as this is, hopefully, a wake-up call for you, it is first a wake-up call for myself. A reminder to not waste these next 5 weeks and, furthermore, to stop waiting for the “right time”. Because there is no such thing as the right time to start something.
The day, week, or season doesn’t need to change for you to.